Keep You lyrics

When you go through a relationship and you just can't or don't want to let go -- you stay friends... The ghost is the love you shared... You can still love but never in the same way -- but it never goes away... Not the pain... Not the tears

A girl and a guy fell in love then things got complicating so they split... And the girl tries her hand at love again but still misses him deeply and has deep feelings for the first guy

I think that we have all had the same thoughts as to what the song is trying to say. And i think that is very right:

That they broke up and the girl can't get past it even though there is somebody who wants to love her.

Here is my own thoughts: that the girl is trying to let go of the first guy and give somebody else a chance and to open herself up to love again, but there is just no way that at this point she can let go of the love that she still feels.

Just like most people have said already i have a story that goes along with this song. I fell in love with my bestfriend. Neither of us planned on it being anymore than friends but one night it changed. Even then it was only supposed to be light and fun... We fell in love. At it was great for a little while but then things changed. He was my first love and he was not in it for forever. He broke it off, and even though we talked about it i could not give you any real reason as to why we ended it. It has been almost a year since we broke up and i still hurt and want him everyday. It doesn't help that i still love him and that i see him quite often and that he is still one of my bestfriends. I have never regretted what we had and i never will, but it is hard to see past him. I am at the part of the song where she can't be with the guy who wants her now. I have let 3 great guys walk out of my life because i can not stop comparing them to my ex. I am happy that he has moved on and is with the girl he is with now (one of my closest friends) but it is still hard. It hurts that i can still imagine what we would be like now and even that there might be a chance for us. But there is only the reality that it was not ment to be.

Very sad song anyway you look at it, but i love it! When i first heard it i thought it was about a woman who's husband had died. Because as jennifer describes in the lyrics, it sounds almost like a death. But saying a final goodbye to someone you love is death, is it not?

What first caught my attention was the video. Although the video is very plain there is alot to pay attention to. To me the song is about a girl who truely does love a man who has broken it off but keeps coming back and for whatever reason she cant tell him no. Like an on again off again relationship. And the reason is stronger than just loving him. Someone else loves her but she chooses him. She always chooses him and she cant even explain way. The other one who loves her finally gives up when he realizes she is never going to leave. And it hurts her to choose him but its a victory in knowing that that shes still got him and in knowing someone else wanted her. A victory in knowing she could have chosen a different path. I was in a situation like that. I fell head over heels for this guy and when we broke up i was fine. I was going on with my life and then he reappeared and as much as i told myself dont do it i took him back. Then we would break up again. Each time was emotionally worse. Even though some part of me each time was saying yes i won there was something weaker inside saying no hes just going to hurt you again. So the question was "what do i gotta do to keep you from doing this to me? " so on one of our "offs" i met another guy and that guy was amazing and there was nothing physical about it. He tried but deep down i guess i was still waiting. As soon as the first guy thought i was moving on there he was. I was wore out. He even confronted the guy about talking to "his girlfriend" and i just sat there and let him. I couldnt speak didnt know what to say. I couldnt laugh or cry. People kept saying whats wrong you used to be fun. But it was like i was just blank. And i was stuck in a little tiny small town that you had to drive at least a half hour to get something to eat. All that was in that town was a bar and a gas station. So i couldnt run or hide. He was always there and always knew how to find me. So i moved. And the reason i say the video tells alot is she is changing her appearance not neccisarily to not be recognized but she is starting a new chapter in her life and she finally figured out how to keep him from doing this to her. When i moved i cut and dyed my hair. I know it doesnt make a big difference but i felt that if i was a new person i wouldnt ever go back and so far its worked although he has still haunted me from time to time. Like the song says... Its a bitter sweet victory. Also even though the relationship wasnt heathly there wasnt a day that went by that i didnt want him so i was happy he was still there but loving the ghost was loving the man i fell in love with not the person in front of me. The person he was had become a ghost to me. And the two notes... I wrote him several times explaining in some why we should be together (one in love) and others explaing how i never wanted to see or hear from him again (one in anger). And i did get numb to the pain and used to the sting. When we broke up i wouldnt cry and wonder how i was gonna survive. I didnt beg him to stay. I felt nothing. Even when i were together i just couldnt feel. I would just stare and wonder how can i keep this from happening over and over again. He knew he had me trapped and that was all he needed to know. As for the last verse i see that as him once again explaing that he wants her back but she cant hear it. Shes stronger now and her tears have fallen so many times that her feelings have all finally disappeared. Now im not saying that that is what the song is saying... That is just what it means to me and in my life and i think everyone interprets songs depending on the events in their lives.

Forevermissing-- i totally agree with you interpretation of the meaning of this song.. I also am in a very similar situation.

What i believe this song is about, is very close to what i experience everyday. I believe he decided to break up, he tried to explain but the pain of hereing the news hit her to hard that she couldn't here his reasons. She tries so hard to move on and she is doing it well enough that nobody really sees or knows she is in so much pain. Somebody else wants her, and that is bitter,sweet because no matter how bad he wants her she can not want him,because the other one(guy) is still right there in her mind, its like he is with her. Though, the love of her life is physically gone, emotionally he is still right there with her, every moment of the day.

Hmm... Not sure about this, but i'll give it a shot..

They both decided to end their relationship, and emotionally and mentally she's not over him yet... So that's the "ghost", she still thinks about him... He consumes her mind so that is how he exists to her (he's there in her mind and heart, but not physically). The "bittersweet victory" is that she still loves him, even though they're done. Then she was with another man, he loves her, but being with someone else only reminds her of the one who she still isn't over, the "bittersweet victory" is knowing that someone else wants her and loves her, but it still doesn't ease her pain... So no one elses' love or attention can make her feel any different about the person whom she really wants to be with.

She can't be in a relationship with the one she loves, but, it had to end... So, she's damned if she does, damned if she doesn't. It's a no win... And that's why she "can't laugh, cry", etc... And "gets used to the "pain". She just goes on living... Emotionless.

I absolutly love this song... Here is what i got from it

They said there good byes and seperated... They got back together cause she was torn with loving him and hating but at least his still there and she is not somewhere wanting him. She got him back making it a victory yet bitter sweet. ... She wrote two letters telling him how she feels one is how much she loves him and one is about how angery she is but she never gave them to him... She tried a one night stand hoping to get over him but instead it made her miss and want him back even more... But it felt good knowing someone else wanted her therefor making another bittersweet victory... All the pain and suffering she has done has made her numb, cause its the only way to deal is by shutting it all off... She feels stuck she dont want to feel this way anymore and she is trying to figure out what she's got to do so this dont happen again...

This song was theropy for me... It sang my pain of what i have gone through, it makes me feel like there is someone out there who has known what i have felt and makes me feel like im not alone and im not the only one... I have done the same thing "taken a man back even though he did me wrong just cause i hated the feeling of missing him... I loved him and hated him at the same time it was torture either way being with him and being without him... But now i am over him

I would have to also go with the personal meaning to me of this song, i heard for the first time tonight and i cried, it seems to happen everytime i hear something from sugarland.

This song to me is saying that two people loved each other and everyone knew it, but in the end she loved him slightly more and he needed to let go. The bitter sweet victory to her is that she still loves him and thats good enough for her. I know when this happened to me i couldnt cry or laugh, i was numb, i couldnt feel anything, i didnt know if i was up or down, in or out, awake or sleeping half the time. Then you realize your willing to do anything, absolutely anything, even if that means waiting a lifetime for him not to do it. I know i did even more of what the song said and i shut him out when he tried to tell me why, i didnt want to know, the reasons i made up on my own were good enough, i had my own reasons for him walking away. I ask myself still everyday what could i have done to have kept it from happening.